My husband went ballistic and said, I just knew something like this was going to happen. Dont tell me that you and ______ (the girl who was staying at our house for the weekend) are lesbians? You lied to me for 2 years? Why stab your partner in the heart, just to see if the relationship will still survive? I'm taking it day by day. Or does it mean something bigger in terms of my own relationship? reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2006): A Secrets have no place in a marriage. I feel like I am hypnotized by the guy. Would they be as lenient? So your crop had already been carrying a blight, hadn't it. :p. You're quite correct, though, I did forget the typical-forum rule of only ever responding with whatever would leave me super-popular, particularly amongst the most naive and dupe-able who 'can't tell' quite a lot. The straight women in the girls-french kiss-girls video were all shocked at how gentle and 'non-aggressive' female kissers were, in comparison to guys. I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. I cant trust you anymore., You think that having too much to drink made it all right for you to kiss ______? I worry I made huge mistakes in my life and that I am destined to life a "good" family life forever more, but never feel that amazing desire and lust and sexual attraction I don't feel for anyone else but this man. So you went and MARRIED someone who was your best FRIEND, not your already Bam!, Pow!, "oh my god there is a god!" IAMHIM (person claiming to be an unregistered passer-by), There's a difference between sex and kissing. Why? Make it up to him by being an awesome girlfriend. Or do I? The doubt in your mind over his behaviour might actually be a doubt in your mind over yours. I guess kissing another when married, with or without the other knowing about it is a sore subject. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. Other than that, I've said everything that needs saying soyou lot carry on if you want, but I'm sat back, counting the money. Need help with your relationship? Boyfriend kissed another girl while drunk? When my husband came home, he could tell right away that I had been drinking. It's where the lips have been and where they're going. (although, I'm not sure how this counts as a debate if you and I are in total agreement, lol). What you're doing might FEEL easier, but that's you making the mistake too many others make, which is paying heed only to the *short* term, meanwhile risking leaving that bud to grow unseen into a thorn bush Just trying to keep the pot stirred,the fire burning. We finally mended fences, but there still is a type of tension between us. I was very drunk. Try to let it go and forgive yourself. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I was nervous and prayed nothing would happen but it did. An affair isn't a bad choice made when a married person decides to sleep with someone that they aren't married to. It was the most thrilling feeling I ever had watching my wife kiss and make out with another guy. Even if it is innocent kiss, I am done. I kissed another guy when drunk but can't remember?! stop any contact (outside of work) immediately. Mercy got too drunk, Cintia was drunk but she was ok so far. When you feel guilty for hurting someone you love, holding in those feelings makes it worse. We are together 12 years altogether and although I had boyfriends before him, it was never serious, and he is the only man I've ever slept with. It's wonderful that you even wanted to kiss someone! But not good enough and you not happy enough to exclude fore-foreplay (open-mouthed kissing) with someone (*ugh) other than him as per the for-life contract? Houston, this team needs to identify then agree over what's causing it. Confesing to your husband was risky. The marriage itself trying to keep his father and the community happy, and just get my husband to consider the rest of the job force he worked in and the many his wants would affect with UAW seniority for a big three auto plant. Please leave me a comment. And, of course, cheating always tends to increase during a recession. I totally regret my actions and cannot bear to tell my boyfriend. I was the driver so I did not drink at all just the wto girls. My husband always encouraged me to pursue music, and, when I told him that this guy wanted to give me advanced piano lessons, my husband was in favor of this. I thought we were talking, in context of the above-type scenario, about mouth-to-mouth kissing being a 'gateway to sex' for the fact of it sparking physical arousal, ergo, whether delayed or in-the-moment, counts as foreplay, ergo, infidelity (albeit, granted, at the thin area of that whole wedge). I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me, I can see you feel very passionate about infidelity, however, on this occassion I won't be taking your advice. Oh yes he has cried a help of a lot. Login first We were good friends for a few years and have dated in the past but nothing serious. I have no idea who the girl is. response. He said I was a person and offered to ride me home. Sums it up nicely. I'm trying - with the utmost seriousness and sincerity - to advise you to keep your relationship rap-sheet completely squeaky clean. By clicking 'Accept and continue' you consent to our use of cookies in accordance with your preferences which can be reviewed / updated at any time via our Privacy Policy. I had had an argument with my fianc because I found a suspicious text from a woman , he became very mad . Not just to you. Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. For starters, your husband, even when supposedly immature, didn't kiss HER. In that sort of scenario, where the kiss (or any intimate contact) lingers for more than half a second - or, put more simply, isn't the kind you'd feel comfortable giving/receiving from your own parent or grandparent - it's an opening of the door, whether or not you subsequently recover your senses and slam it shut again. However one night a boy kissed me and I kissed him back. Hubby had a similar experience when we were in our first year - with his ex. Hi Scope! Yes one should take care of themselves before getting drunk. Lets get down to the basics here. He's a nice guy and we get on, but I don't know how I'm gonna face him talk about normal work things. [1] you didn't foresee and avoid being in that predicament. Live with the soul crushing guilt you earned, or lose your BF. I remember saying 'no, no, this is bad' in the middle of it, and he said 'I know but I really like you and I have done for ages', and he kissed me again, but this time only for a second because I said ' I really can't do this, I have no excuse, I'm married and he's lovely, it's not like I'm unhappy, he's a good person' then he kinda just stroked my arm and said 'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. I have to be honest, I have never once had the urge to visit America. Is kissing someone else when drunk cheating? He was so drunk himself that he started singing I Love Paris and, in the middle of the song, he said in a gruff voice, You wanna kiss me? drunk, kissing. By clicking 'Submit' or otherwise submitting this form you agree to the, By entering this site you declare So what do you think? reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A That tells you that even if you think you are not showing any signs of being attracted to someone, peoples S/Os have a since of whats going on! lover. When you go out and get drunk- if you find yourself attracted to another man- think back to how you feel now after you acted on that attraction. (Ta-daaaa!) You even said it indirectly in your story, when said you decided to get drunk. Im more than competent at the piano myself, but this guy was amazing. Then he kissed me, and I kissed him back. :p It's not that big of a deal anyway and you aren't going to do it again. Thank you. (That'll do me nicely! You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. My girlfriend(Cintia), me and my best friends girlfriend (called Mercy). A couple of nights ago I went out to a work function. We all should know by now that alcohol affects our judgment and that it can make us less inhibited and cause us to behave in ways in which we never would behave while sober. Fear holds you back. Myself and the man were sitting next to each other on the couch, and the other woman was sitting on another couch at the other side of the room. 8=) ) female The problem is soulmate if I mentioned some of the things that happened in another in another thread. So she told him for starters to kiss her well you know where. I was very drunk. I had text my husband so he knew where I was and that was ok. Add your answer to this question! Lee.. you are too funny. Thinking of it over and over again will affect you mentally, and make it worse. It's good you feel guilty, that means your not cheating pond scum. LOL I was so drunk, I barely remember the kiss, but I know it happened. Houston, despite we started out as just friends, we now have PROOF that we have utilised a mechanism for cultivating love and respect, enough to now remain together til death do us part. A Almost a year ago I began university, my boyfriend and I decided we would do long distance and we are still together now. Own your truth- You did not expect to hear the REAL TRUTH and the RIGHT ADVICE. This. You kissed a guy - Possibly unforgivable. Even though it took her a while to make that choice, she both never recognized her role and then made a series of bad choices after. Bad things happen.Yes.but wat i d recomnd u is NEVER EVER tell him ! It's not just a guy thing anymore,women are in it too. Kissing is the gateway to sex or part of sex. I felt a mixture of excitement and flattery and nerves. I'm not sure if you are trying to be helpful, or just entertaining yourself with your responses. Okay if it was me who did that even thou I dont drink Ill first ask him as if its someone else who did it, like a friend or a colleague and if he overracts then think again but if hes all cool about it then break ice. But I can't leave my job. Itachi, Lees theory can backfire, especially if the person really believes you are talking about someone else and then he/she finds out you are talking about someone that YOU did. ?We were doing well and I was afraid he would never forgive me. In fact, you dont even have to tell your partner what you did because it was an innocent kiss. Unforeseeable consequence. But I don't see the need to borrow trouble by telling your boyfriend if you have learned your lesson and know you will never do . BTW lips are also very much a part of foreplay that's what I've read. Then you must be doing it wrong. Alcohol was a factor, but all it did was bring to the surface the feelings that were already there. Yes, that's what I was going to advise - that you two continue any discussion on LG's own thread. (SK: no, it's just one of those places that's never appealed, holiday-wise, no doubt exacerbated by the fact I don't like long-haul flights for how they literally do my head in (think it's the aircon gas plus oxygen deprivation (don't get me started)) often lasting for a whole week afterwards, which isn't exactly what I call having a nice time.) You're going through tests BY OTHERS to find out why you can't fall pregnant. Personally, I think even innocently returning a kiss is cheating, although Id probably keep it to myself! he said the situations arent at all the same bc he doesnt feel turned on by me kissing another guy the way i do from a male on male kiss. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? For your information, I have only the *one* bottom and and it doesn't ever tend to leave tracks (- speak for yerself!) [2] ..you showed you don't think of he and you as a team by sharing all information pertinent to the relationship; Not sure how anyone can say they're "certain" he doesn't need to know, given the fact that he made his own standards and expectations perfectly clear on that score, back when he himself was the 'victim' of a come-on. 4. She has just sent a private message to him on FB. Though somehow I think there might have been trouble in the marriage. I myself have had issues in the past months but I won't elaborate. I am heartbroken but told him I understand that I couldnt be with someone who doesnt trust me. My husband wasnt home at the time. I'm mortified. He deserves the right to make the decision on whether he can forgive you and move on with you. Before delving into my own personal story, Id like to address this subject generally. A forum community dedicated to married life between you and your spouse. What did she say? She emailed him out of the Blue, and he proudly showed me both her smarmy email and his polite yet nonetheless "on yer bike!" So, you went to a party and everyone was drinking. in all the years we are together I have never ever done anything like this before, and I can say with confidence I will never allow myself to end up in any situation that could lead to anything even close to this again. :-( Feel free to start a thread if you need to vent it all out.). If this is bothering you, then tell him. There was a lot of biting and groping going on, because, you know, the guys were giving it their best shot. And I know himhad it made him feel the slightest bit threatened and worried, either he'd have said so there and then, or, if for some reason hadn't felt capable, would have shown in his behaviour at some point (I was watching for it regardless). Later, he tried to make out and I said no because I felt it was wrong.I told him I needed a uber. And Brodie groped James. When I needed a dresser picked up from a furniture store, he offered to take me to the store and bring the furniture home in his pick up truck. We were chatting when we realised the other woman was snoring. Since he felt there was an attraction with you two. Iam a bisexual man and kissing a female is a different feeling then with a male. Sincere apology if my assumption is wrong. Ive told her Im sorry, I wont let it happen again and Im sorry for being dishonest. Loyal Girl sorry to hear about your situation. But please seperate the issues. It was just a kiss. "and even though he said he immediately pulled away" I believe in complete honesty, 100%. I say tell him. Okay. As for what we believe about kissing being the gateway to sex (specifically foreplay, which itself is the main gate): if anyone believes it *isn't*, thenwellAll I could say to that is: We were not drunk. Oh no worries soulmate, yes we do miss you We'll talk tomorrow. As I left, the boy who I kissed came with me and I tried my best to shrug him off. I did say gateway to sex at first didn't I. Jam, your wife holds the cards. I have to admit that by kissing this guy whom I liked, I did cheat on my husband. ;-). Talk to her about it and explain to her how it hurt you to see them kissing. It didn't feel real. Generally people dont care when it happens with others but when it happens with them, they may react very differently because human are emotional creatures.